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Author: Stella Halwa/Toastmistress Group

What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other: by George Elliot.
It has been said that kindness is the Golden Chain by which society is bound together.

Life is made up not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles, kindnesses, and small obligations given habitually are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort.

Happiness and kindness go hand in hand. They cannot be separated. The reward of kind words and actions is the happiness they cause in others and the happiness they cause in ourselves. The very process of speaking kind words brings a happiness all its own. In the same way there is a special glow that comes over us when we perform an act of kindness towards others.

In essence most of the major problems in the world have their roots in the unkindness and selfishness of men toward one another. By the same token, the world can be changed for the better insofar as each person does his part to bring kindness and love into every aspect of human affairs.

Love of others requires a self-love untainted by mere self-seeking. One's self is the only companion one cannot avoid. Choosing, feeling, thinking - it is ever present, and it will be a comfortable companion according to those choices of feelings and thoughts.

During recent years a great many young people have shown this concern for integrity and kindness and have shown it so vividly as to make it a distinguishing mark of their generation. One does not lose integrity as one grows older, or that one gives up striving for a better world. The kind and the principled are of all ages, and when people of various ages work together for a cause, they are all - "Young"

Kindness alone, may become an effort at merely pleasing someone else.

Integrity alone, becomes self-righteousness. Kindness intercepts evil at its source in human decision; therefore, so far as kindness exists, evil does not exist.

Integrity and kindness are well-mated; in their union they have a common strength. Separate and alone, however, each moves toward excess and ceases to be itself. Perhaps it is the case that here, as elsewhere the interplay of all things maintains some sort of balance.

An effort made for the happiness of others lifts us above ourselves. Kindness is a charm permitted to everybody but for the aged it seems to come with a double grace and tenderness. One kind action leads to another. If we show kindness toward another, he responds with kindness. This is the most important effect of kindness upon others - it makes them kind themselves. Kindness has converted more sinners than zeal, eloquence or learning; in fact, these have never converted anyone without kindness. Kindness is a language the mute can speak, and the deaf can hear and understand.

Integrity and kindness are cardinal virtues. These are traits of character that are most to be desired and when one lacks them, one lacks values that nothing else can supply. Unkindness and deceit have to hide as much as they can - perhaps for shame certainly for cautiousness.

Integrity and kindness can do a good deal, and what they do they do well. There is the fact that these personal values are always available. One need not wait until the end of a long career to possess them. One can have them here, now, and all the time. One's hold upon integrity and kindness, therefore needs strength to be maintained-or being lost, skill and perseverance to be recovered Moreover, these two virtues, since they are traits of character, seem to be intimately joined with psychological health. If, as we know, it takes much inward security to accept the risks of loving, and it will be found in characters little touched with malaise.

Also, if it is your custom to do so, partake of the rituals, sacraments and celebrations of your own religion in the fullest sense of awareness regarding their significance.
As with Him, each of us must find our own soul purpose and live by them. As we find in Hamlet, "This above all, to thine own self be true."

Then be not too quick on the judgments of others. Put thyself in their place, in thy mind, before you pass judgment on others.
Love is seeing God in all that exists.
Love is being a light of love to others.
Love is giving - completely - with no strings attached, with no need or expectation of reciprocation.
Love is allowing others complete freedom to be themselves.
Love is accepting others as they are - not as how we would like them to be.
Love is being respectful of other's thoughts and privacy. (and their time, too)
Love is sharing - "Filling the other's cup"
Love is attempting to give what best is needed by another individual (Saying or doing the right thing at the right time and place.)
Love is praying that God's Will be done through others - even if it hurts you in the outcome.
Love is being able to stand knowing the truth about yourself - and others.
Love is being able to stand up and speak out for what one firmly believes in. Be willing ever, to give account of the reason for the faith that lies within - don't be afraid to speak of the same.


But as He is the water of life, as He is the bread of life - so in all thy undertakings, ye water, ye nourish, ye feed; and leave the results to thy God: Know, then, that as He had His cross, so have you. May you take it with a smile. You can, if ye will let Him bear it with thee, DO IT;

In Prague there lives a retired accountant who takes upon himself an arduous but seemingly pleasurable task of personally guiding visitors through his beloved city. He claims he does this to make up in some small way for the unimaginative and uninspired official tours which leave the visitor unappreciative of what they are shown. This man shows you Prague - but not through the picture window of a site - seeing bus but from slow measured walks through interesting narrow streets, buildings, parks and cemeteries. He speaks tenderly and from the heart, and his intimate knowledge of what has been springs to life against the background of a building, sculptures of paintings and antiques. He makes his time your time whether it's a day or a week and will not accept any payment or compensation for this service. Such a man is JOSEPH LATTER. His unselfish devotion and desire to share his intimate knowledge with those that are interested make him an outstanding example of kindness that is indeed rare for a traveler to find.

To cultivate kindness is a valuable part of the business of life.

:Do unto others as though you were the "others.”

Getting along with others is an art. We have to learn it and practice it, little by little, until it becomes a second nature. A kind person does not scorn, ridicule, or belittle others. Instead, he tactfully inspires hope and confidence of those in need, regardless of their social, religious or racial background and see what rewards kindness does have to offer.

As you look back upon life, I am sure that there are moments that stand out when you have done things for others. Make a rule, and pray to God to help you to keep it, never if possible to lie down at night without being able to say, “I have made one human being at least a little wiser, or a little happier, or at least a little better this day.” By Charles Kingsley.

The following resources proved useful in researching my speech:
1) Emotional Common-sense - Rolland Parker
2) Compassion - William Eckhardt
3) Ethics - Dead and Live - Barrows Dunham
4) A Pastor's Newsletter
5) The Treasure Chest - Charles Wallis
6) The New Dictionary of Thoughts - compiled by Tyron Edwards
A speech given by me at the "Toastmistress Group" which won the 1st award for the best speech given, for the year end.